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I never thought Id be committed to one man for the rest of my life, she told Vulture.
Im not a romantic.
The change happens if youre willing, and I totally was willing, Kaiser said.
This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.
How do you feel about the termgirlboss?I love the term!
I think its a very powerful thing to be a girlboss, especially now.
Just having to be a woman is boss.
Then also being a working woman, thats such a perfect term.
I hope you love it too.
Do you identify as a girlboss?Definitely would consider myself a girlboss.
And I like the wordbossbecause I think thats sometimes intertwined.
People use the wordbitch,and I think theres a huge difference between that and being a girlboss.
We know how to handle our own stuff, were powerful women, but were not bitchy.
How was it balancing a filming schedule while running a whole-ass business?Oh my God, tough.
Luckily, they were very considerate about my work.
They knew how busy my schedule was.
And thats where I was in that moment.
I wanted to do this show.
I promised Antonio Id give it my all.
Id wake up earlier, stay up later.
You said you were resistant to joiningThe Ultimatumat first.
He was like, If we dont do something like this, I know you never will.
It tookThe Ultimatumto hold me accountable, to really dive in my feelings and really think about being married.
Otherwise, I wouldnt have done it.
And that was a hard conversation for him too!
I dont think it sinks in completely when hes asking me to do it.
Especially during the dating period, youre not talking at all.
You would have someone in your ear talking constantly, like, Whats going on?
What did you do?
What are you talking about?
Obviously, it happens, but you really try not to communicate.
And its so emotional.
I was crying watching myself cry.
I mean, I was going through it mentally.
Like, it was literally me how I felt and how I feel.
And I didnt hold back.
It was authentically me.
And no, there were parts I did not love.
There were parts I was like, I shouldnt have said that or I dont like what I said.
But I cannot say it wasnt me, and I liked that.
Were getting along, and our day-to-day was pretty cool.
But in my gut over time, something didnt feel right.
I could never come back from that.
But hes perfect for Kat, which is fine.
Sometimes, when emotions are high, it just doesnt come off as genuine and authentic.
I just wanted her to know her worth.
Because thats how I felt!
I need to ask about that night Antonio ran to you.
Like, trust me, me either.
But that night especially was very intense, because remember, we dont know where were all living.
And it was veryNotebook-y, like, Ive got to find Roxanne!
He thought maybe I was into Alex, maybe I didnt respect him.
He had no idea where my mind was at all.Is she gonna leave me?
Is she gonna stay with me?
Okay, fast-forward to decision day.
Can you talk to me about your thought process while getting ready that day?I was really emotional.
I was crying a lot that morning.
I remember waking up thinking: I dont want to just say yes because Im on a show.
I dont want to say yes just to make Antonio, or my family, or his family happy.
I remember being like, Im gonna have to say no.
We drove to this together, how are we going to get home?
And I was like, Okay, I cant worry about any of that.
So what changed?My gut.
Im a big gut person.
When youre a parent, love is bigger than you.
Its your children, right?
I think just love, in general, is bigger than yourself sometimes.
So its a big love for him that I committed to.
